And that isn’t the only potential difference worth scrutinizing. The proper roles in your marriage are worth a look, too (or healthiest roles, most functional, most realistic: discuss). You seem to operate on the expectation that you’d both have career-oriented jobs and both share the financial weight. But plenty of marriages involve on purpose or out of necessity one spouse as primary breadwinner and one in a different role, anything from homemaker to freelancer to volunteer to primary caregiver for children. try this outDid you discuss this before marriage, or did you both act on a set of assumptions? medical school interview invites 2015If you discussed it, has he changed his mind since then? If he hasn’t changed his mind, have circumstances changed enough to warrant a mutual rethinking of roles anyway? You could also take a closer look at what’s going on with him. Maybe he’s traumatized, as you say (in which case an appointment for you with a good therapist could be eye-opening).
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